My overall views on Medium finally hit the 250,000 views mark! I am stoked! Wooohoooooo! This is the most fantastic thing that has happened for me since I started writing here a little over a year ago.
I have published a whole 85 articles since I joined Medium, and have over 300 sitting in my drafts paralysed by my fear of not being good enough.
I am a top writer in Love, Relationships, Mental Health, and Psychology (according to Medium). I also have a keen interest in Personal Development although I have not received any accolades to show for it.
“Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.” — George Eliot
Super lovers. Who are they and how do we become like them?
It seems some people were born lucky and seem to find that once-in-a-lifetime kind of fairytale love in each of their relationships.
My friends Mark and Claire are super lovers.
Do you know a couple like that?
When Mark and Claire met, it was not love at first sight. If anything, Claire thought Mark was too aloof for her liking, and Mark thought Claire was too social for a shy introvert like him.
“And all those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the hard work of making their relationships happy.” — Linda Miles
One of my favourite movies of all time is a Disney-produced cartoon called Anastasia. When her family is killed, Anastasia barely makes it out alive. Later, with vague memories of her past, she travels to Paris with two cons who want to portray her as the real princess and get rewards from her grandmother, the Queen.
In due time, one of the cons finds out that Anastasia is actually…
I once spent my whole morning on the phone with one of my best friends, Alice. It was a very enlightening conversation for me. She had recently gotten married and I wondered how she knew this was the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.
Her answer was quick and cheery, “He loves me and he is also in love with me.”
This was the basis of most of our conversation. I always thought loving someone and being in love with someone were the exact same thing. I was wrong.
According to psychology, to love someone…
“We are most alive when we are in love.” — John Updike
Alice, who I have mentioned in a previous article elaborating signs that your partner is in love with you, is one of my go-to gurus when it comes to matters of the heart.
I choose to have these conversations with her because she keeps things real with me. She emphasizes that when people say relationships are a bed of roses, that is exactly what it means. The bed of roses looks beautiful but the moment you lie in it, you are reminded that roses have thorns.
“Life happens to everyone. We all experience emotional pain at some point and we’ll need to find the time and ways to heal ourselves.” — Maya Angelou
I recently shared a story about my friend Fiona and her partner who are struggling in their relationship due to failure to heal from their personal past traumas. The feedback and questions were heartwarming.
We all experience emotional distress in all sorts of ways — like sadness, anxiety, addictions, unproductive obsessions, unwanted compulsions, repetitive self-sabotaging behaviours, physical ailments, boredom, and various angry, bleak, and agitated moods.
Emotional pain is pain or hurt that…
“As traumatized children, we always dreamed that someone would come and save us. We never dreamed that it would, in fact, be ourselves, as adults.” — Alice Little
My friend Fiona was telling me about her struggles with her boyfriend, Mark.
What started as mild cases of miscommunication as a result of heightened stress turned into full-fledged red flags that have left their relationship in tatters of uncertainty.
You see, Mark and Fiona both suffered childhood trauma.
Fiona was abandoned by her father and raised by a single mother along with 8 siblings. The mother sacrificed everything she had to…
“Exercise not only changes your body, it changes your mind, your attitude and your mood.” — Anonymous
We all know that exercise promotes a healthier body and a better sense of well-being.
It boosts confidence for people who need a newer self-image while it prevents the aggravation of physical illnesses for some.
While nearly all of the research on exercise is focused on demonstrating positive effects on the physical body, there is a growing mass of research that seeks to prove that exercise is good for mental health as well.
You are amazing and strong and brave and wonderful. Remember that today.
Hello Wonderful Humans!
We are almost 3 weeks old! Wow! Thank you for choosing to be here at this moment in the existence of the Universe.
Welcome to Volume 2 of the Clear Yo Mind Newsletter.
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“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.” — Napoleon Hill
I am so proud of us. I am proud…
“We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
In psychology, stress is defined as a feeling of emotional strain and pressure.
Stress is a type of psychological pain.
Small amounts of stress may be desired, beneficial, and even healthy. Positive stress helps improve athletic performance. It also plays a factor in motivation, adaptation, and reaction to the environment.
Excessive amounts of stress, however, may lead to bodily harm. Stress can increase the risk of strokes, heart attacks, ulcers, and mental illnesses such as depression and also aggravation of a pre-existing condition.
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