All the small details tell a bigger story.

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I once spent my whole morning on the phone with one of my best friends, Alice. It was a very enlightening conversation for me. She had recently gotten married and I wondered how she knew this was the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.

Her answer was quick and cheery, “He loves me and he is also in love with me.”

This was the basis of most of our conversation. I always thought loving someone and being in love with someone were the exact same thing. I was wrong.

Did you know there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone?

According to psychology, to love someone means to really care about that person, to be enamored by them, and to really want to get to know them. Love can be platonic or romantic, but it means to understand who that person is and cherish them for it. …

You enjoy the little things.

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Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Till death do us part is the length.

— Fawn Weaver

Who we marry is one of the most important choices in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success, like no other choice.

I am at that point in my life where I know what I want when it comes to dating and relationships. I value honesty, compassion, loyalty, friendship, and companionship.

As I have grown older, appearance has ceased being a great priority for me. I mean, it plays its part but I value the inner beauty and personality traits of my partner more than their height or the number of rock-hard abs across their abdomen. …

Love, on its own, is simply not enough but this one thing might be.

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Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough. — Mark Manson

I still get excited whenever I talk to my friend, Wilson. Last week, he walked into my office with a bounce in his step. He enthusiastically announced, “Today, I am going to share a truth many people do not know — love is not the most important aspect of a happy relationship.”

Wilson recently got married to the love of his life so this announcement was perplexing to me. He was, however, clearly excited about what he was about to tell me.

At the beginning of the conversation, I was very skeptical as I have thought for the longest time that nothing surpasses love in any successful relationship. However, I did not want to douse his fire, so, I listened. …

#7. The greatest love of all is easy to achieve.

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“Do. Or do not. There is no try.” — Yoda

Finding love is one thing, keeping it is another. There is no foolproof plan that will always work like a magic charm; or one-size-fits-all piece of advice. However, it is possible to find true love in this lifetime. And I hope you get to keep it, too.

Here are seven steps that worked for me that I believe might work for you, too:

1. Live your life as you want to live it.

When I started to discover more about myself and to follow my own path, I started to live a life that was meaningful to me. …

2021 should be your year of a fulfilling relationship.

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“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung

Many times when people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them.

So, they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner — either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want.

In my experience, finding your forever love and soul mate requires a different, far more soul-enriching approach.

Here are six steps that worked for me that I believe might work for you…

Happiness is a direction, not a place.

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“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” — George Sand

I used to believe that a great relationship should be all sunshine and roses although I knew life is not perfect. Happiness is one of the most important factors that make a good relationship great, and I wanted the fairytale I see portrayed by our media.

I felt disappointed whenever my partner and I had a disagreement, no matter how slight — this did not agree with my image of a great relationship. …

How mindfully you lived yesterday will determine how well you thrive tomorrow

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Be on the alert to recognize your prime at whatever time of your life it may occur. — Muriel Spark

It feels like it has been ages since I turned 20. The years are going by quite fast, and I have quickly realized it would have been okay to slow down when I was younger.

It would have been okay to ignore the things I worried about so much. I should have invested more time in my relationships and taken more time to reflect on my progress in life.

I should have enjoyed being 20-ish to the maximum, and geared up for focused work in the decade between 20 and 30. There is so much you can do in 10 years if you know what you want in life, but there is also so much that could go wrong if you do not. …

10 signs that prove what you already suspect.

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“The more thought and energy you invest while waiting, the stronger your feelings will become”. — Anonymous

Don’t do it. Do not invest more thought and energy while she slowly decides if she is into you.

When someone wants to be with you, they will usually make it known to you. You will not have doubts about how they feel about you.

But what about when you are getting mixed messages from someone you really like?

Sometimes she hangs onto every word you say, other times you worry that she couldn’t care less.

This kind of behavior makes dating and starting new relationships extremely frustrating and difficult. …

And how to love yourself into a good relationship.

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All failed relationships hurt, but letting go of a toxic relationship is actually a gain, not a loss. — Marc and Angel

I ate the rest of my meal in silence. What started out as friendly banter between friends turned into silent glares and seething anger. Ritah hasn’t talked to any of us since, because we hurt her feelings.

While I was having breakfast in a popular restaurant with 4 of my friends yesterday, a song on the radio The Heart Wants What It Wants by Selena Gomez sparked a conversation.

In this song, there is an implication that although you can’t count on your partner, you keep them around because without them a part of your life is missing. No matter how much your partner brings you down, you still love him. …

Love is a choice you make every day.

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Love changes us. Love makes us human. — Hello Love

We assume others show love in the same way that we do. And if they do not, we worry they do not love us.

I am an avid reader. When I first read the best-selling novel the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman, I was a naive teenager who was skeptical about everything concerning love.

I thought people who claimed to feel butterflies in their stomach because of love were pretentious. I thought people mistook infatuation and lust for being in love. …


Elizabeth Kasujja

Passionate about Mental Health. Avid reader trying to find my own writing voice.

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