“And all those “and they lived happily ever after” fairy tale endings need to be changed to “and they began the hard work of making their relationships happy.” — Linda Miles
One of my favourite movies of all time is a Disney-produced cartoon called Anastasia. When her family is killed, Anastasia barely makes it out alive. Later, with vague memories of her past, she travels to Paris with two cons who want to portray her as the real princess and get rewards from her grandmother, the Queen.
In due time, one of the cons finds out that Anastasia is actually…
“We are most alive when we are in love.” — John Updike
Alice, who I have mentioned in a previous article elaborating signs that your partner is in love with you, is one of my go-to gurus when it comes to matters of the heart.
I choose to have these conversations with her because she keeps things real with me. She emphasizes that when people say relationships are a bed of roses, that is exactly what it means. The bed of roses looks beautiful but the moment you lie in it, you are reminded that roses have thorns.
I once spent my whole morning on the phone with one of my best friends, Alice. It was a very enlightening conversation for me. She had recently gotten married and I wondered how she knew this was the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.
Her answer was quick and cheery, “He loves me and he is also in love with me.”
This was the basis of most of our conversation. I always thought loving someone and being in love with someone were the exact same thing. I was wrong.
According to psychology, to love someone…
Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Till death do us part is the length.
— Fawn Weaver
Who we marry is one of the most important choices in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success, like no other choice.
I am at that point in my life where I know what I want when it comes to dating and relationships. I value honesty, compassion, loyalty, friendship, and companionship.
As I have grown older, appearance has ceased being a great priority for me. I mean, it plays its…
Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough. — Mark Manson
I still get excited whenever I talk to my friend, Wilson. Last week, he walked into my office with a bounce in his step. He enthusiastically announced, “Today, I am going to share a truth many people do not know — love is not the most important aspect of a happy relationship.”
Wilson recently got married to the love of his life so this announcement was perplexing to me. He was, however, clearly excited about what he was about to tell me.
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other. — Abraham Lincoln
My friend Sheila is the luckiest girl in the world.
Two years ago, during a relaxing Saturday at the beach with my friends, she had a nice guy in our group of friends approach her. Sheila knew he liked her, as she had caught him staring at her a few times. She could see that he was nervous. So she tried her best to make him feel more comfortable.
They had a short and pleasant conversation that afternoon, then chatted on…
“You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.” — Amy Bloom
No matter how much someone loves you, they can’t love you into accepting yourself. Only you can love yourself into self-acceptance.
A few short months ago after a lovely evening of drinks with friends, I zoomed into pictures of myself just so I could see my insecurities more clearly and fret over every last blob of extra fat. The little voice in my head reminded me that I could be skinnier, I could be taller, I could be…prettier.
It was a struggle to accept myself and…
“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater.” — Sarah Dessen
I recall the despair of my first heartbreak. I became wary of trusting anyone else with my heart ever again.
At the time, it seemed to me that there were happy couples everywhere.
I felt like everyone else had received the memo on how to develop a happy and healthy relationship. And there I was, on the sidelines looking in, with no hope of ever joining that club.
In a world…
At this time last year, if you had asked me whether I thought I could ever make significant money from writing, I would have said no. I do not possess special writing skills, I do not feel gifted, and I do not even have an established writer to mentor me.
In the last twelve months, however, I have made four figures from writing on Medium alone.
This is what I think: If I, an ordinary person from a third world country can make money from writing, you definitely can, too.
The reason for this article is that I feel there…
We never get enough of falling in love and believing in love. — Shemar Moore
When I was a young girl, short for my age and rocking chubby cheeks, I dreamed of being a tall, powerful, independent young adult. A time would come when my curves would be more accentuated, my waist more snatched, and my cheekbones more defined.
A handsome prince would see me from across a crowded room and would instantly fall in love with me. He would then pursue me relentlessly, adorning me with gifts and attention, and I would fall in love with him, too.
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